Relationship Counselling and Psychosexual Therapy
What is Relationship Counselling?
Relationship or Couple Counselling provides space for you as a couple or as individuals to explore difficulties in your relationship, in a safe, supportive environment. I will not take 'sides', nor will I tell you what to do.
Often just hearing what each other says without your discussion escalating into a destructive argument can be enormously helpful.
Some individuals find it useful to explore their relationship histories and may discover patterns that end up repeating. Counselling may help to identify and change the behaviours that create unhelpful patterns.
Common Relationship Problems
Having an affair
Differing expectations and life stages
Step parenting difficulties
Worries about older parents
Separation and Divorce
It may be that you have decided to separate or divorce; relationship counselling can help to provide a safe space for you to negotiate family,financial and logistical changes that may be made. A couple that separate amicably can enable their children to experience a minimum of distress and retain good relationships with both parents.
What is Psychosexual Therapy?
Psychosexual or Sex Therapy, known as PST, is treatment by a qualified practitioner which addresses a sexual dysfunction or emotional block within a relationship.
PST has a proven success rate and referrals can be taken from clients themselves, GPs and other counsellors. PST looks at physiological and psychological sexual problems which are causing distress to a couple or individual. Physical causes such as medication, alcohol, stress or illness will also be considered.
PST is a cognitive behavioural programme which openly explores and discusses the sexual problem and looks at emotional blocks for the couple. Homework tasks will be set, but you will never be expected to perform sexual tasks during the session, however you will be asked for thorough feedback about how the tasks went.
The main sexual disorders for men:
Male Erectile Disorder: difficulty in obtaining or maintaining erections.
Premature Ejaculation : difficulty in controlling ejaculation.
Male Orgasmic Disorder: not ejaculating when you want to, taking too long or not at all.
The main sexual disorders for women:
Vaginismus: involuntary spasm of the muscles around the vagina, which make sexual intercourse difficult or impossible.
Dyspareunia: Recurrent or persistent genital pain associated with sexual intercourse.
Female Orgasmic Disorder: persistent or recurrent delay in, or absence of, orgasm following a normal sexual excitement phase.
By far the most common problem, however, for both men and women is loss of sexual desire.
Intensive therapy, using a behavioural approach, should only be attempted by a suitably qualified therapist. Inappropriate sex therapy can reinforce problems in a relationship rather than help the situation. Dealing with physiological or emotional difficulties must be sensitively and skilfully managed.
What is Assessment and Treatment for Sex Addiction?
Sex Addiction describes any sexual behaviour that feels out of control. This might include the following
Compulsive use of pornography
Having multiple, ongoing affairs
Dangerous sexual practices
Chat room/online sex
Illegal sexual practices
The above do not necessarily mean that you may be addicted to sex, but if you are distressed by any of the behaviours and would like to address these then please get in touch to discuss further.
Please feel free to contact me to discuss any queries you may have.